Giving Jealousy a Hug: banishing the shame of jealousy in childlessness

“A moment came not long after my niece was born that encapsulated the sense that joy and jealousy could both inhabit the same space.” JEALOUSY. There! I’ve put it in capitals because it is a very human response and it’s okay to say it out loud. But so often jealousy is an unwanted, shameful whisper … More Giving Jealousy a Hug: banishing the shame of jealousy in childlessness

The Art of Not Sharing: maintaining creativity in a connected world.

  Hello lovely people In his book Thinking, Fast and Slow,  Daniel Kahneman presented a ‘thought experiment’: what if you go on holiday and you know that at the end of the holiday all your photos or videos would be destroyed or deleted. How would that change your experience of your holiday? It’s a thought-provoking question … More The Art of Not Sharing: maintaining creativity in a connected world.

The End of Hope: How a cake helped me let go of my dream to have a child

Hello lovely friends. This month’s post (well, I just squeezed it into July!) is longer than my usual. Nevertheless, I hope it will be helpful and perhaps will shed some light on the power and the potential tyranny of hope and how we can find inspiration, in unexpected ways, to transform a stale hope for … More The End of Hope: How a cake helped me let go of my dream to have a child

Silent Desire, Silent Loss: the conversation many childless men are not having

Hello lovely people. Sunday 18 June will be Father’s Day in the UK. For a couple of weeks now I’ve been receiving emails from companies professing to have ‘the perfect gift for Dad’ and I’ve noticed the signs outside pubs saying, ‘Book now for Father’s Day.’ It has always struck me that Father’s Day seems … More Silent Desire, Silent Loss: the conversation many childless men are not having